well•ness noun 1. the quality or state of being healthy in body and mind, especially as the result of deliberate effort. 2. an approach to healthcare that emphasizes preventing illness and prolonging life, as opposed to emphasizing treating diseases.

It was when I was about 40 that I starting letting go. Letting go of things that drained me, letting go of things that didn’t help me fill my well, letting go of people that weren’t good for me. Taking a rest instead of powering through. Recognizing my need for quiet. Treating myself to a book and a cup of tea instead of braving the grocery store crowds. I also had to learn to say no. It was hard. But it was important for my wellness.

I found that for the first time ever, I started paying attention to my well of energy. To my wellness. And when I started doing things that fed the springs that led to my well, I was just happier. I was more ‘well.’ I was a better wife, parent, friend, business person. I was a better ME. I was able to live wholeheartedly.

People think that wellness is just about exercise and eating right. You bet. That’s part of it. But these are only parts of the puzzle. I think wellness really springs from within. The trailhead is within.

I’d like to add: sleeping well, calming your mind, surrounding yourself with people who add to the fullness of your life, smiling, laughing, being centered, being connected, growing, learning, really listening, communicating from your heart, living with your highest intention, expressing your creativity, and being in nature. These are things to add to the mix of wellness.

What am I missing? What do you do to fill your well? What do you do to ‘be well’? Take care of your beautiful selves. You are so worth it. Peace!